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Skyviews Amanzimtoti

April 22, 2017

Not much one can say about these, just that almost ever morning here the sky is beautiful. In Nelspruit it was the sunsets that were better, not the dawn.

 

 

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Faith and Fear

April 22, 2017

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When one mentions the word faith, most people immediately jump to the conclusion that you are talking about religious stuff. Far, far more important than that, in my opinion, is faith in oneself.

In this society I find myself in, they teach you to have self doubt from an early age, and lack of faith in yourself and who you are. Your “faith” gets put, not into yourself, but what you are taught. You must faithfully believe “they” are right and you are wrong.

When you are different, you faithfully believed that you have to change who you are. You need to bend and mould and become who other people told you you should be. You are supposed to put their (society) needs and opinions, first. You must to push down your joy, your hopes, your dreams. You must dull your shine, and just damn well fit in.

You believe those things so that you will be accepted and loved. So you do what you believe will get you those two things and you end up living in fear of being yourself. Worse, you start a long journey of living a lie. You lie firstly to yourself and then everyone around you. You are happy, you are doing well, and you are satisfied with your achievements in life. (You have a “good” job, you have a house, a car or two and all the things that show you are successful.)

Meanwhile you are slowly dying, your spirit, your soul if you will, is withering away. You forget who you actually are and become this non person that looks good from the outside.

I believe that this is a great cause of alcoholism and drug addiction, and the reason so many people in this modern society are on legal drugs for metal issues.  To quell the fear of being you, those that do not take to alcohol or drugs do other things, they shove the fear down with food, or hours of mindless TV,  join some cause or by refreshing facebook and email every twelve seconds

Living in fear and in a lie of your own creation is not a good plan. The first step out of this hell hole is to find out who you actually are, and that…… is a very scary task in itself.

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Tree Frogs – Photographs

April 21, 2017

I believe I have found two different types since I have been in Amanzimtoti. The Natal Green Tree Frog and the Painted Tree Frog.

 

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Personal Space

April 21, 2017

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Proxemics is the study of human use of space and the effects that population density has on behaviour, communication, and social interaction.

The clever chaps in white jackets tell me that most people are comfortable with as little as 60cm distance when talking to strangers. Don’t know about that!

According to Ralph Adolphs, professor of psychology and neuroscience at the California Institute of Technology, “It is important to keep in mind that personal space of course varies depending on culture and context, and that there are significant individual differences.”

I am not sure what “culture” I fit in with, but it would be one with a huge circle they consider personal space.  But I live in Africa and without having to research anything on line I know that here, it seems that personal space does not exist in many of the cultures here!  This causes me much distress when standing in any form of que, at the checkout in the shops, in the bank, at the licensing department…..

The psychologist Robert Sommer suggested we do it by temporarily dehumanizing those around us, avoiding eye contact and pretending they’re inanimate until the moment comes when we spot an escape route. “ After all”,  he says, “ it’s not uncomfortable to stand inches from a wall.”

That  is a sure way to get mugged, robbed  and/or killed dead in South Africa, so is not an option.

The best I have come up with is to stand sideways in the que.

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Baby Monkey Photographs

April 20, 2017

The “town” monkeys are hard to photograph, I thought since you can stand right next to them this was going to be a breeze. Until I pointed a camera at them. Because they have been shot at with all sorts of weapons, they see the camera and are GONE, at high speed. This little injured baby was not so cautious.

 

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A Mother’s Love – Photographs

April 19, 2017

The baby seems to have been bitten, by another monkey or a dog, and although these little monkeys always take good care of youngsters, this one is getting even more attention.

 

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Self Deception

April 19, 2017

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“The action or practice of allowing oneself to believe that a false or invalidated feeling, idea, or situation is true.”

It would seem the biggest problem with self deception is: we have to live our truth whether we are honest about it or not!  So why do it?

Reasons for Self Deception

The justification I have heard the most for self deception from people in my Strange Classrooms is people quoting some painful life experience. The cynic in me sometimes doubts that they are even telling the truth about that! For example, in one particular Strange Classroom that deals mainly with drug addiction, about 95% of the girls claim they were molested, hence the addiction problem.

Then, people often rationalize their questionable behaviour in an effort to maintain a positive view of themselves.  Beyond merely sweeping transgressions under the psychological rug, people can use the positive outcomes resulting from negative behaviour to enhance their opinions of themselves.

The way I see it is that people do not like to take full responsibility for either who they really are or their actions.

Doing some reading this is an example some clever chap in a white jacket came up with. A student will claim that he cannot study because he has concentration problems. Meanwhile the student is just worried that he is not intelligent enough to pass the test well. This excuse gives him an out.

This layman has observed:

In the past decade or so, what I call the ABC “sicknesses” have become the rage, if you do not want to take responsibility your lack of ability to control your child, the child has ADHD. If you have no self discipline, you are Bi-Polar or some shit. The Medical Profession and Pharmaceutical companies are loving it.

When I am drinking this bothers me not in the least, but when I get on my sober track, hell, people that use excuses like these really, really piss me off. Defect of character, that I can add to my list, I suppose.

How to fix it?

You have to take a long hard look in the mirror, and be brutally honest with what you see, and work from there.

Again, simple, but NOT bloody easy.

 

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Hibiscus Flower Photographs

April 19, 2017

This damn flower was so pretty, and as I have never seen a hibiscus like this before, I took a few shots of it with different settings on the camera. I am not unhappy with the results.

Hibiscus is a genus of flowering plants in the mallow family, Malvaceae. The genus is quite large, comprising several hundred species that are native to warm-temperate, subtropical and tropical regions throughout the world. Member species are renowned for their large, showy flowers and are commonly known simply as hibiscus, or less widely known as rose mallow. The genus includes both annual and perennial herbaceous plants, as well as woody shrubs and small trees. The generic name is derived from the Greek word ἱβίσκος (hibískos)

 

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Citrus Swallowtail Photographs

April 18, 2017

“Found throughout South Africa.
Can become a pest for citrus farmers.
Young caterpillars are camouflaged to look like bird droppings.
Caterpillars are also equipped with a gland called an osmeterium which resembles a snakes forked tounge. When threatened, It flicks the tongue-like organ which gives off a pungent citrus smell. Larval stage feeds on citrus trees.”

Info taken from: Butterfly Valley

Photographs taken by Wayne Bisset

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Resentment II

April 18, 2017

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“The moment you start to resent a person, you become his slave. He controls your dreams, absorbs your digestion, robs you of your peace of mind and goodwill, and takes away the pleasure of your work. He ruins your religion and nullifies your prayers. You cannot take a vacation without his going along. He destroys your freedom of mind and hounds you wherever you go. There is no way to escape the person you resent. He is with you when you are awake. He invades your privacy when you sleep. He is close beside you when you drive your car and when you are on the job. You can never have efficiency or happiness. He influences even the tone of your voice. He requires you to take medicine for indigestion, headaches, and loss of energy. He even steals your last moment of consciousness before you go to sleep. So, if you want to be a slave, harbour your resentments!”

Anonymous

It would seem that resentment is an addictive state of mind, and as you know, any form of addiction is bad for you.

So what to do???

Firstly resentment is a choice, your choice, to refuse to both be totally honest with yourself and then to forgive. Secondly resentment is replicating the past, and how often have you told someone to, “Stop living in the past.”?  Thirdly it is only an illusion of strength.

 

Therefore the only way to get rid of any resentment you may feel is to deal with the past:

 

Be honest about what part you played in whatever drama it is that is causing the resentment you feel. Own your part in it, apologize for that and forgive the other person for their part in it.

Simple. No?

Yes it is, I did not say easy, I said simple.

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“Living with resentment is like taking poison and expecting the other guy to get sick.”


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