“The moment you start to resent a person, you become his slave. He controls your dreams, absorbs your digestion, robs you of your peace of mind and goodwill, and takes away the pleasure of your work. He ruins your religion and nullifies your prayers. You cannot take a vacation without his going along. He destroys your freedom of mind and hounds you wherever you go. There is no way to escape the person you resent. He is with you when you are awake. He invades your privacy when you sleep. He is close beside you when you drive your car and when you are on the job. You can never have efficiency or happiness. He influences even the tone of your voice. He requires you to take medicine for indigestion, headaches, and loss of energy. He even steals your last moment of consciousness before you go to sleep. So, if you want to be a slave, harbour your resentments!”
It would seem that resentment is an addictive state of mind, and as you know, any form of addiction is bad for you.
So what to do???
Firstly resentment is a choice, your choice, to refuse to both be totally honest with yourself and then to forgive. Secondly resentment is replicating the past, and how often have you told someone to, “Stop living in the past.”? Thirdly it is only an illusion of strength.
Therefore the only way to get rid of any resentment you may feel is to deal with the past:
Be honest about what part you played in whatever drama it is that is causing the resentment you feel. Own your part in it, apologize for that and forgive the other person for their part in it.
Yes it is, I did not say easy, I said simple.
A Short Story by Wayne Bisset – eBook
“Living with resentment is like taking poison and expecting the other guy to get sick.”