Raising People Expectations….. Falsely

When  discussing taking a moral inventory with one of my Strange Classroom’s teachers, he brought up the subject of raising peoples expectations falsely; how dangerous this was, he went so far as to say it was no better than out right lies.   He was talking about how to raise a recovering addict/alcoholic’s expectation and then not following through with implied promises, can push the person that has been let down into a relapse. Like most of the lessons I learned concerning addiction, they work just as well for non addiction related situations, for life in general.

The last few years, with the Rhino Anti Poaching people, I have had so many people saying things that they never followed through with that it is impossible to remember them all. I did learn however not to act on a promise made, as last year this lead to a few disasters in my life. The very people that broke implied promises, spoken promises and even written promises were the very first to blame the chaos of my life on my relapse into alcoholism. Taking none of the blame for their “no-show”  This taught me a lot, adding to my knowledge gained another Strange Classroom; Mirrors and The Child. By combining the words people speak and then their action, or non action in this case, and you have a pretty clear picture of whom you are dealing with. From those that indicate they have work for you to those that say “I will call you tomorrow.” But never do.

Then you must decide if you really need people like this in your life?

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Here is a story of developing and breaking an addiction, while dealing with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome at the same time.



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2 Responses to “Raising People Expectations….. Falsely”

  1. Carol Says:

    This is so meant for me this morning Wayne, thanks for the reminder…I need to do a bit of springcleaning again….:)

  2. Wayne Bisset Says:

    Reblogged this on Section Eight Solutions.

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