Believe me no one likes it! This is especially true when it is directed at you personally or on something you have achieved that is close to your heart. How does one deal with this inevitable occurrence? As I have learned it is not the situation that is important but how one deals with it that counts, some of these things I have being taught, in my strange classrooms, gave me the ability to handle criticism a bit better. Make no mistake, it still hurts, just not so badly
In every lesson one of the things that usually comes up is: Balance.
Simple word, simple concept, so hard to achieve. Put emotions into the equation and it becomes almost impossible. In business we pay a lot of attention to a balance sheet, so why not make one here too?
The first thing is to see what goes on the balance sheet. Where did the words come from? Very un-spiritual and all, but some people are worth dog shit! If it comes from such a person, take it from where it comes and forget it, remember your Basic Human Rights for Self-Development
Think about this:
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.
Who, if he wins, knows the triumph of great achievement.
And who, if he fails, at least fails
While daring greatly.
Hopefully you fall into the Who Dares Wins category. Be honest now! So you don’t , the criticism is justified and came from a person you respect? Ouch. Now it the time to take a step back and act rather than react. Get a pen and a piece of paper and write down the “fault.” Look at what you did wrong and why, perhaps you were being lazy or in a hurry. Write that down too. Then think how you can firstly rectify the immediate problems this has caused and put that down. Ponder a moment about how you may prevent this from happening again. You will know, if you are honest. Put that down as well and then resolve to work on that issue in the future. By now you should find it doesn’t hurt too bad and you most likely will be grateful to your critic, rather than holding a resentment towards them. (That word is a swearword in my vocabulary. Will get around to my, not so humble, opinion on that one day.)
Very important: ACT ON IT. Keep that piece of paper for future reference, lest you forget.
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